I’ve heard this thing being said so many times in multiple different scenarios. ‘Its complicated’. I’ve heard both males and females say it. I’ve heard it said in abusive marriages and relationships. I’ve heard it said I’m toxic relationships. I’ve heard it said in toxic friendships. I’ve heard it said when people cheat, lie, gaslight and manipulate others. I’ve heard if from people who do these things and people who have had these things done to them.
I’ve heard it in so many different areas of life as well. Within families, between siblings, parent and child, aunties and nieces/nephews. In offices, in school, in church, at work, in your neighbourhood, everywhere and anywhere.
In a lot of the situations that I hear it, its being used to make more excuses and justify the actions of others or even their own actions. If you need to make excuses or justify the action when you should know there already is a problem.
I would watch them do it over and over again. I watched them give reasons, excuses, explanations and justifications for it every single time. I don’t understand it, maybe I’d have to experience it to get it but why would I want to deliberately put myself in such an uncomfortable situation. Then again, they don’t necessarily put themselves in that position, but they don’t exactly stop it from happening or continuing either.
There are certain types of situations and relationships that I don’t subscribe to. Love triangles irritate my soul. I think personally because I know that between both of those individuals theirs one person you love more. Yet you dine with the other either because they are better in ways that the other isn’t or for whatever reason. It is possible to love 2 people at the same time but you loved on first. Why do you feel that that person isn’t enough? Why not fix it? Or move on completely? Why the back and forth?
And if you found a way to love both, its obvious who you love more.
There are many things in this world that I categorically do not like; winter, cold food, people touching me, people breathing on me, sushi, rock music, the list is endless. People like those things and that’s fine for them, not me though. As a reader I enjoy books very deeply. I especially enjoy mafia romance, psychological, dark romance, light romance, sports romance, such and such.
I have a love and hate relationship with ‘enemies to lovers’ trope. I hate it most of the time but too many good books are under that dynamic so I suck it up and read it. But I truly can’t tolerate some no matter what, like slow burn.; I’d rather jump off a bridge. With that being said another trope is ‘love triangle’, I’ve never liked it and hopefully I never will.
I watched the last season of ‘Emily in Paris’ and all I can say is love triangle can never be something I’d be interested in. I don’t even want to get into the movie itself to be honest. My whole outrage was the constant love triangles. I get the idea that someone can love 2 different people at the same time but there’s definitely one you love more.
You say its complicated, but what exactly is complicated about it. If they truly love you, you wouldn’t be confused and it wouldn’t be confused and it wouldn’t be complicated. It would be simple. I love you; you love me. What’s with all this back and forth of being together, then breaking up and then get back together but not really. Constantly putting yourself in an uncomfortable position and for what?
A person that doesn’t respect you? Or are you the person that doesn’t respect them by putting them there in the first place? You don’t want this person, but you don’t want them to leave. You’d rather keep them close than let them go because of whatever fucked up reason you’ve concocted in your head. That somehow this mess you’ve made is justified.
The people that piss me off are the ones that actually want you. They’ve said it and shown it but they don’t act on it, at least not really. They give you just enough to get your hopes up for a future that they have no interest in creating. They get you stuck, hoping and waiting, its truly disgusting, manipulate and downright evil. They want you but not enough to actually keep you.