How much is too much?
According to the Internet, attraction is a powerful force drawing things or people together, encompassing physical (like gravity or magnetism), personal (a person’s charm, appeal, or interest in another).
And perversion refers to behavior, attitude, or actions that deviate significantly from accepted societal, moral, or sexual norms, often interpreted as a corruption or distortion of what is considered natural or right.
In plain English terms the difference between both words is very clear. But in human behavior it somehow becomes hard to tell the difference.
Two people meet each other and the first thing that registers is attraction or not. In the case of one person not finding the other attractive or they both don’t find each other attractive, the interaction is often short and sweet. When it begins to become perversion is when the one that is attracted to the other refuses to accept that the other is not attracted to them.
Attraction is simple. You see the person and immediately you find them attractive or not. Some require conversation to know the person better, then the attraction builds from there. Regardless attraction begins the interaction.
When attraction becomes perversion is when one person becomes uncomfortable with the other sexual behavior. The way they talk about them, the way the act around them
Their vocabulary becomes more and more vulgar. Whether or not the conversation is sexual they make it sexual. It begins to feel like all they ever think about is sex, especially when communicating with the person. Then the physical behaviors. Touching inappropriately.
Let me explain the difference between appropriate and inappropriate touch. Inappropriate means an unwanted touch. There’s a difference when you hold someone’s hand and they hold yours back, than when you hold it and they either don’t or take their hand away. You touched them and they smile or touch you back or even lean closer, those are appropriate touches.
That person wants you, wants your touch. It becomes inappropriate when they audibly tell you to stop, they push you away or their body language immediately becomes rigid when you touch them. Is obvious to everyone but you that the person is uncomfortable or maybe you just ignore it.
When a person begins to feel like more of a sexual object by your words or/and actions the line between attraction and perversion has been crossed.
It’s a very clear line and there is no similarity. Sending unsolicited nude pictures, vulgar language, degradation and unwanted advances are all examples of perversion. Especially after the person has asked you to stop or never encouraged you in the first place.
It is okay to admire, to give a compliment. It becomes a problem when you begin to believe that the person owes you something because of it. When you believe you have the right to someone’s body. The only person’s body you have the right to is yours.