It is easy for us to lie to ourselves. It is easy for us to run away from the truth. It is easy for us to create illusions and believe them wholly and completely. It’s easy to create a mask that fits into the perception we have created. Is easy to believe in the words that are said to us especially if it’s something we want to hear.
In a world where we have decided to believe that we are perfect. There are different types of content that we are likely to consume in our daily life. It could be the content that encourages us to push boundaries by calling us out on our inadequacy’s, basically bullying us to do better.
It could be content that softly encourages us to do better; by praising our past efforts and telling us that’s our best is yet to come and all we need is to try harder and do better.
Then there is that constant that tells us that we are good people and if nobody can see that then they are the problem, not you. In some cases, this is very correct but that’s not my highlight of the day. I’m looking at the point of view in which this teaching is very wrong.
We aren’t as good as we think we are. This is where I call on the perspective of self-reflection. I know we enjoy content that tells us that we’re perfect that we’re fine just the way we are but let’s be realistic with ourselves. Are we actually as good as we think we are? Are we without blame or fault?
If we are completely honest with ourselves, we would realize that the answer isn’t always a yes or no. It could be either at anytime but one thing we should realize that we aren’t always right, so our actions can’t always be adequate. We make mistakes and do bad things but that’s fine as long as we are able to self-reflect and admit our mistakes.
The problem with people not accepting that they’re wrong is because they Do not believe that they are. If you cannot look at your actions and call yourself out on your own bullshit, then you are the problem. It’s even worse if others tell you that you’re wrong but you refuse to see it.
We need to learn first of all that we aren’t perfect. We are very capable of making mistakes whether intentionally or not. We are just people not a single person knows everything or can always be right. We need to allow ourselves to be open to correction and improvement. Growth never ends; it is a continuous process that has no time limit. Growth stops when we die and as such we can always do and be better.
If we choose to believe that we are above correction, then that causes you to be stagnant. You are growing but in the wrong direction and eventually when you realize the damage it may be too late, that is if you realize it. When you sit within yourself and see your behavior for what it is, It is easier to change or improve. When you decide to be negligent about it the behavior will get worse till it ruins all your relationships and you.
If you think you can’t self-reflect, look at those behaviors that people around you have complained about. Actually, look at your actions from their point of view. Ask yourself ‘if this happened to me would I be ok with it?’ The answer of that question would help you understand your actions better.
How would you feel if that was done to you? The more you ask yourself that question, the more likely you are prone to see the error in your ways. Self-reflections very important in becoming a better you.