The legendary phrase that may be true is also very false. First of all, no one is born an asshole, various experiences throughout life makes us become who we are. Secondly, why exactly are we generalizing the entire male species based on one mans mistake or a bunch of men’s mistakes. In lots of cases this conclusion is reached after various bad experiences with different men or the same man, that is justifiable to an extent, but I don’t believe in generalization especially based on the actions of someone completely unrelated to them. Finally, what makes you feel like only males are the scum of the earth? I at one point in my life could also be referred to as ‘scum’, mind you I was in my hoe phase.
It’s not a bloody excuse but I just want to make it known my state of mind at that time. Literally just had a completely unrelated PTSD flashback, yikes! Anyways I accept my mistakes for what they were, and I have no shame or discrimination to what I did, and you have no right to judge me either cause we both know that you ain’t no damn saint. The concept of blaming a particular sex for the sins of just one individual is very disappointing, what’s even more ridiculous is that if those words were used in direct reference to the opposite/female sex we often become offended and find excuses for the mistake of the offender as well as become very defensive ourselves.
Let me break it down so you get the point I’m driving at. A lady gets heartbroken by a man and then says, ‘men are scum’. She then goes to discuss her situation with a male friend, all the while condemning the male species during her dialogue. He as a good friend listens to her and comforts her, then further into the discussion his own heartbreak is brought to the table and he also says ‘women are scum’, the lady is immediately offended and tires to defend her fellow woman alongside defending her own self as to why it can’t be all women and he shouldn’t say things like that. All the while she has forgotten her own discretion that was made earlier in the conversation. When her earlier statement is brought back to the argument, she would say it’s not the same thing and men are terrible people, and the argument goes back and forth till whenever.
Sounds familiar, doesn’t it? Maybe not exactly but you get the gist.
I am neither on the side of the women who say this nor the men. I am of the very unpopular opinion that we are all ‘scum’ together. We all have undesirable characteristics and skeletons in our cupboards so why be a hypocrite and pretend to be what you know you are not, especially when you know you’re not better or probably a whole lot worse. I will discuss hypocrisy at a later date, my, my do I got a lot of stuff to say on that. I don’t believe that everyone is bad, but we do all have bad tendencies as a human. What you decide to do in respect to those tendencies is completely up to you as it defines you. I believe that there are heartbreakers in both sexes, and no one is any better or worse than the other. I have heard stories from both sexes that will bring you to tears, the more things I see and hear makes me realize that the good ones are few, but they are definitely there. I don’t want to go around in circles trying to convince you of what is perfectly clear because at the end of the day your opinions will forever be yours. I will recommend that we see things clearly for what they are and not what we’d like them it to be.
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